Source: Beijing Evening News
Original title: At the end of the semester, is it possible to accompany the baby to review it?
At the end of the period, this is not only a test for children,
It is also a "big test" for parents.
Following the review of parents, accompanied by "Lion Roar",
After high blood pressure and heart stent,
Recently, a photo on the Internet has become hot again:
A father carefully reviewed the homework with his child,
With both hands clipped,
It turned out that he was afraid he couldn't control his temper.
Beat the child in a hurry.
Giving baby tutoring assignments,
Became the number one killer of family relationships.
Should parents review their homework with the baby?
Square: Gotta accompany!
Outstanding children are accompanied
Liu Wen, parent of sixth grade student
I was particularly touched when I saw the photo of the parents on the Internet cutting their hands to accompany the baby to review. In my opinion, excellent children are accompanied by parents. Especially in elementary school, if you are one step slower than others, you will be slower and you must not let your child lose on the starting line.
People are inherently inert, especially children. I accompany the child to do homework and review homework. On the one hand, I want to supervise the child so that he does not delay time; on the other hand, I want to have some understanding of the school's learning progress and help the child to review it. In fact, in the first and second grades of the child, I tried to let the child do the homework independently, and I didn't check. It turns out that the child is very confused about doing the homework, and the knowledge point of the note is not remembered. Not only is there a red fork in the homework book, but also the opportunity of weekly and monthly evaluation is missed. I immediately realized that it was worth the loss because I had stolen so little laziness. I am fortunate to discover this problem in time, and reversed his decline.
Nowadays, there is fierce competition in the society. Let's see how hard the father and mother of Haidian are and how many cows have been cultivated. Although our own baby can't be as good as the "other's child", it can't be too bad. We should accompany us.
Only good homework is eligible for "good student"
From the first grade, my parents often accompany me to do my homework, and check it after I finish. The teacher will give “Little Stars” for all the homework. After one week, he will get a small certificate and the teacher will give a small prize. The top few who receive the most awards in a semester are eligible to be selected as "good students."
Therefore, I hope my parents can help me with my homework, so that I may be rated as a "good student".
Younger children can accompany
Teacher Wang Hailing of Beijing 101 School of Petroleum Branch
As a teacher with 20 years of teaching experience, I think that I can accompany children to do homework, especially for children in lower grades of primary school, but we must pay attention to the method of "accompanying".
If parents play on their mobile phones while they are doing homework with their children, or keep staring at their children to do their homework, once they find that the child has a problem, such as writing the wrong words, they start to criticize, complain, and blame the child. I made a mistake and said how many times you have, I ca n’t change it. "I did n’t do this when I was a kid ..." This kind of companionship not only did not help the child, but caused interference to the child's learning, making the child feel that the parents were sitting. Next to him is "monitoring" himself, distrusting himself, and children with strong personality will therefore have a strong rebellious psychology and even confrontational behavior with their parents. I think it is better not to accompany the baby to do homework in this way.
Parents should accompany their children to write homework. They must have a good role positioning. They must understand that parents are only the role of accompany and counselling. The protagonist of the homework is the child himself. Parents must not be overwhelmed and make their children feel that homework is their parent's business. After a student encounters a problem, parents should not give an answer immediately, let alone write homework for the child. Good practice is to guide children to clarify the relationship between what they have learned and homework topics, cultivate children's way of thinking, and guide children to think actively.
Opposition: Not accompanying!
Learning depends on the child
I often see news on the Internet that parents accompany their children to learn how to get sick. I find it ridiculous and sad. When I was a kid, when parents had time to accompany me to study, they all learned by themselves. The result was not only good grades, but also cadres in the class, which never bothered parents. Learning is the simplest kind of work and you can only rely on yourself. Today's children rely on their parents for everything and have no ability to solve problems. How will they live independently in the future? Besides, parents also need to have their own lives. Now that they have a lot of work pressure and are tired enough to go home from work, they have to give their children tutoring homework. How can they talk about the quality of life?
Mom and dad upset me
Junior High School Ocean
I have never understood why my mom and dad would accompany me to review my homework. Is this how I can concentrate on my studies? In fact, I have grown up, I have understood the importance of learning, and I know that in the future no one will be able to substitute for my entrance examination and college entrance examination, and I can only rely on my own efforts. Even if my parents checked my homework correctly, it does not mean that I will be able to take 100 marks in the next exam. Moreover, the daily lecturing in my ears can only annoy my heart and end up unhappy.
Parents don't get offside
Wang Huan, principal of Shijia Hutong Primary School
The accompaniment to reviewing homework is performed daily at home, and this topic is getting more and more attention. Many parents are anxious because of this, and their children are suffering. Homework is an education, and this education is to cultivate the independence of students. Without the supervision of the teacher and parents, completing the homework independently and consciously is meaningful to the growth and development of the child.
The child's psychology is various, and the more he helps him, the less active and less active he is. Because they feel that they are embarrassed, parents will not leave extra homework for themselves. If the homework is written, the parents will arrange a lot of things, which will be tiring. There are other children who are dependent. Parents do it a little bit, no matter what.
When the child grows up, he should do his own thing and solve his own thing. In the process of completing the homework, excessive involvement of parents is detrimental to the child's growth. Let go and let him finish it by himself. The completion was good or bad, and the teacher came to the school the next day to face it directly. Based on the results of the assignment, the teacher will carry out education on the formation of thinking patterns and the attitude of completing the assignment. This is something that parents should know and need to really pay attention to. Otherwise, there should be a problem that should not occur-parents are offside. Parents don't need to pay too much attention to schoolwork. This should be done by the school and children. The result of offside will cause the child to only "confront" and "dialogue", only "annoy" and lack of "brain".
Developing good study habits is most important
Sun Yunxiao, Chief Expert, Family Education, China Youth Research Center
Accompanying the child to review the homework breaks down the parents, which not only reflects the parent's emphasis on the child's learning, but also exposes the parents' anxiety and low educational ability.
In fact, the essence of family education is to change parents. Parents should learn to cultivate their children's good habits. Based on my more than 10 years of habitual research and practice, here are five suggestions.
First, parents set an example for their children and often let them see that their parents are reading books and studying. A large-scale national survey of Beijing Normal University in 2018 found that primary and secondary school students regard parents as the most important and direct role models.
Second, create a family learning atmosphere, often bring children into the library or visit bookstores. According to the survey, children with 50 books are more likely to develop reading habits than children with 10 books.
Third, develop children's learning habits from four links, namely, attending classes carefully, completing homework independently after class, pre-class review, and post-class review. Children who have developed these four habits generally have good and stable academic performance.
Fourth, it is the sacred responsibility of the student to guide the child to complete the homework clearly. It is just as important as the parents' insistence on the post to complete the work task. It must be done carefully and hard. Parents' responsibility is to provide a good environment and carry out the necessary supervision. For example, children cannot watch TV and watch mobile phones while doing homework, but parents do not add homework after completing the homework and ensure that the child has time to play.
Fifth, do not demand the child's performance ranking, pay more attention to the child's learning attitude and habits, pay special attention to each child's progress, and give the child timely praise.
If the parents insist on the above five, your child is likely to become a child who loves to learn and complete his homework consciously, and even has an unlimited future, because he has developed good study habits and has a strong motivation. And protection.
Parents have to return the task of learning to their children
Li Hongfei, Secretary-General, Parent Education and Family Culture Research Branch of Beijing Education Society
The reason why parents are anxious stems from the lack of effective ways to cope with their children's learning problems. Some parents have headaches in their studies during their school days, and they are also vulnerable to guiding their children's learning. How should parents face their children's learning problems?
The most important thing is for parents to believe that their children want to learn well. Even if the child is not doing well now, parents must believe that the child can improve in the future. This belief is the source of the child's confidence in learning. Excessive anxiety conveys mistrust of the child. If parents want to express their expectations for their children's future, but do not want to put pressure on their children, it is recommended to use blessing methods, such as "Children, I wish you 100 points!" And so on.
If the child has been bored with study and fear of examinations, it is necessary to start to improve parent-child relationship, teacher-student relationship and family environment. If necessary, you can find a family education or psychological consultation professional to help resolve the child's psychological pressure. As children gradually find confidence and effective ways to learn, their academic performance will naturally improve. (Jia Xiaoyan)
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