The success of education against native families is not accidental, nor is it necessarily the result of hard work

Original title: The success of educational counterattacks to native families is by no means accidental, nor is it necessarily inevitable under the premise of hard work

Running away from the mottled native family, the story of successful counterattack in education is like a bowl of boiled chicken soup. Liz Murray was born in a slum in New York. When she was in her mother's belly, her father was still in prison. Her mother was released early because of pregnancy, and her sister was temporarily sent to a foster family. When she was a child, her father was released from prison to be reunited with her family. The family of four lived on monthly benefits. She saw that her parents were always rolling cigarettes that did n’t smell like cigarettes. The egg meal of the day was angry, and she was also angry that she was not with herself, striving for a better life for her parents. This parent paved the way for degeneration, she went from childhood to youth. The death of the mother directly led to the collapse of the family, but she finally had the opportunity to let Liss transfer the power of maintaining the family to herself. She successfully completed the 4-year course in 2 years and moved towards her early knowledge of existence in her life. Outside, bright world. This dawning life was recorded by her, and she called it "the journey from homelessness to Harvard." ("Harvard Road")

Lisi's success is by no means accidental, nor is it necessarily inevitable under the premise of hard work. Like a developing film, it is also affected by many factors such as power, decision, and timing. These families regard education as a priority rather than a right, but this is not the biggest resistance. After school, they cannot amphibiously live in the old family order and the new personal world. This is their greater predicament. Rather than deify counterattack, how to adapt and evolve under this predicament, can it better reflect the value and significance of education.

Having experienced the desperation of stealing and picking up trash, studying at a subway station, or spending the night in a subway that runs overnight, it was not a problem for Lisse. Instead, it was a sofa and a soft blanket on the bedside, killing her to go out. The will to school. As one boy she met said, getting out of the slums is not easy, but you have to stay awake, you can dream, but you cannot fall asleep. Fate is a long struggle, not a superhero movie that ends half an hour after the turn. Life here and elsewhere is like water flowing into the water, and it is impossible to draw a line. It is still difficult for people who escape the native environment to get rid of their family influence.

All Elena's efforts are to escape from Naples, which is full of violence, to leave her ruthless childhood, especially to avoid all the similarities between herself and her mother. But when she was accepted by the Higher Normal School of Pisa, mastered the refined and elegant Italian language, married to Shuxiang Mendi, and even had a mother-in-law who could help her career, she would still swear in Neapolitan dialect in a hurry, She was even more frightened to find that her gait was like a lame mother when she was pregnant. And if anyone ever imagined what kind of life would be if she stayed-her genius girlfriend Lila is her parallel world. Lila enlightened her curiosity and desire for the outside world and inspired her enthusiasm, but she chose to keep (or control) this small city. For Elena, this was another incitement, and she felt absent from her hometown during this period. ("My Gifted Girlfriend")

People who grew up in chaos have gone to big cities because of their excellent achievements. People are used to exerting brilliance and imagination on them, but the real life is not a flash of light cast by the media. Their native family is an alien in people's eyes. It is not an ideal for these families to go to school, and more like a joke, no one wants to really practice it, unless they are forced to escape and escape. The sense of order they get from education makes them incompatible with chaos. Instead, they become aliens in the family. If schooling is a rejection of the original family, it must also be rejected by the original family. Elena's mother is proud of what her daughter has achieved, but at the same time she will rudely say to her daughter, do n’t take it too seriously, if such a smart person comes out of my stomach, then I am at least as smart, even smarter.

When Lucy was a child, she lived in a garage in the small village of Ding Dian. On the playground, her classmates pointed out, "Your family is smelly." When her sister was in the second grade, the teacher said in front of the class. "Poverty is not the reason for dirt behind your ears. No one is too poor to afford even a bar of soap." She and her sister have no friends and can only look at each other with skepticism looking at the world. In high school, she dreamed that she was in college. I was afraid to fall asleep again because I was afraid to wake up again and find that I was still in this room and always in this room. With all her wishes, she went to college, fell in love, got married, and is now a writer living in New York. She has never seen any family in 17 years. People in the town have various opinions about her. Some people feel that she is arrogant and indifferent, and when she walks away, others remember that she stayed in the library in order to keep warm in elementary school and had to go home. When her mother-in-law introduced her to her friends at her wedding, she added: Lucy from nothing. ("Everything is possible")

Taking the ride of the new book promotion, Lucy finally went back to meet her elder brother Pete. Her sister Vicki also came to her and asked her how she came back from the vast world. It wasn't until Lucy's panic recurred after many years that she couldn't stop crying, and she dismissed Vicki's taunts. "She kept saying that I was wrong to come, and it was wrong to walk, it was all my fault." Vicki told Pete. "She just couldn't stand coming back here. It was too difficult for her."

I am "a traitor, a wolf in the flock". This is how Tara defines her relationship with her family after the counterattack. She lives in the mountains with six siblings and a family of nine. Because of her father's beliefs, all children do not go to school and no one goes to the hospital. Not going to the hospital means that from midwifery care to burns, the mother is healed with herbs and essential oils. If you do n’t go to school, you ca n’t equate with absolute ignorance. My father will read the Bible aloud for the whole family. Besides helping a few kids, they can go to town to buy textbooks and books. But not going to school would inevitably lead to her backwardness. To her, Napoleon, like Jean Valjean, was someone he had never heard of. When she stepped out of the mountain, she couldn't discern fictional stories from real events. ("When you fly to your mountain like a bird")

It was knowledge that provided her with a tool for understanding reality, and she was amazed and fascinated by it: the fragmented, repetitive, and unstable physical world can be captured, understood, and predicted. Knowledge led her to believe that there was a "rule and rational world" outside, reversing the order of knowledge from theory to practice. In the face of a new world, understanding becomes a priority. In the beginning, this was not easy. Despite passing the entrance exam and entering a higher education institution, Tara knew "I'm not the only person who feels confused, but I'm more confused than anyone". She made low-level mistakes, such as not understanding the method of preparing exams and the rules of the exam, and not understanding the meaning of the word "massacre", but she studied violently and stayed at school in order to separate herself from her home. Become a better person than yourself. She found a cut in the rhythm and self-integration of the elite society, got a degree, and was recommended by a tutor to a better professor for a higher degree. But the fruits of these ordinary people's eyes are only a sign of her education. She is "suspended in the double fear of the past and the future." The real problem is self-salvation, and the real education is self-discovery and self-creation.

For Tara, receiving education and returning to the family is a dilemma, but studying has become a retreat. Family members have values and reasons in their lives, but when they get together, life becomes a quagmire. His father was (perhaps unwilling to acknowledge) persecuted and delusional to control, and became a Noah who insisted on building the ark. It seemed ridiculous in a time when God did not let the flood. Her mother insisted that Tara was the "going out of the blazing fire" at home, cut off her hesitation about attending school in consideration of her father's opposition, and urged her to leave quickly; she refused to attend her graduation ceremony alone, and couldn't believe she would expect a Men and women appeared without the presence of her husband. Not to mention the elder brother who physically and psychologically humiliated her several times, after exposing his parents to his violence (still protected by everyone including other victims), he was indirectly and directly acquainted with his death, In the end, he was completely isolated from his life. At the end of the abusive e-mail, he wrote sadly that loving family is better than everything, loving you is better than family, and you are stabbing behind me. They loved her by nature, and they hurt her by nature as well. The type of love in the family is suspicious. The emotions of the family are full of uncertainty. Every tenderness happens like a miracle. Miracles will appear, but one cannot live on miracles alone. She was willing to leave home and be hypnotized by the school.

Through education, Tara glimpsed the history of humankind and thought about her place in it, gradually awakened to the obvious facts, and formed a basic understanding of self. When she went home on vacation, her father or brother joked to her as usual, their tone did not change, their motivation did not change, but her ears changed, it no longer heard the joke, but a signal. Along the path to school, she withdrew from the patriarchal boundaries. understanding. Understand the conflicts in them, understand the condemnation of yourself, understand the path to justification and voice, and stop silent or die in vain. In addition to ignorance, Tara had a sense of shame in the past. Others were confused and timid about this, but "stuck in the past self" could only "send her elsewhere" by hand. Being educated has changed the way she sees the world. She no longer lives in the narratives of others, scrubs the unavoidable sense of shame, and bears the pain of stripping the native family. Overthrowing the old faith can build her new life and live up to her full price.

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